Shreesha Khare is an author and an inspirational thought leader, aka a leading luminary. She is walking on the path of “Self-Illumination” to be more of her true self, share more of her personal experiences, and change the lives of others through her own journey of personal transformation. There is a deep internal desire in her to take all of what she has learned and remind others that it is all about knowing within and be true to their evolution on this planet earth as a human being. She believes that suffering is the key to unlocking our greatest gifts. She is the Founder and Chief humanitarian Being at S&S Co-Space for Humanity, a boutique where you will be served with coaching and guidance of self-love and self-actualization, is like taking a journey into the inner cosmic world.
The moment a man comes out of the womb, the world they see is through the eyes of others, and their thoughts are through the thoughts of others. They are playful, lovable, creative, full of laughter, and adventurous. They are full of energy as babies, hold the attitude of ‘can do anything’, and have a curious nature. When adults enter our lives when we become a bit grown up, they start giving us direction on what we should and should not do, what we can and cannot do. Our decisions are not our own; every action is influenced by their interference. This puts us in the zone of succumbing to our own emotions. Also, we live our lives on the edge of brood outcomes. Furthermore, when we become adults, we hold onto our negative self-talk and when we go out in public, we must put on a mask.
Then later in life, when we are tired of the masking, we look for a better approach to life. What a life? An interesting one, right?
Let me set up a meet and greet with the harsh reality of life. In spite of whatever is going on in life outside of you, I will be there. It is you who have to change your approach towards life. Before we head to that part, I want you to ask these questions:
- Where can you change yourself?
- If you cannot change yourself in certain situations, then what else can you do?
There are no prescriptions to follow to be optimistic. Every person should be on the path to figuring things out for themselves. However, let’s dive into some basic things that we need.
In life, bring yourself together with your own self, as you are the centre point of this world, whatever is happening in your life. You must build a relationship with yourself. Once you do that, your relationship with life will naturally be better. Start celebrating your journey and the destination you have reached. You have been through sperm to grow up human, which means in life as well, changes will start with small steps and bring monumental transformation. Your optimistic journey starts with yourself. What do you think about yourself? What is the story you tell yourself about yourself? Do you accept yourself the way you are? Life is not purely light or dark, it is in navigation mode where we must go through some darkness to understand its meaning only later in life. Moreover, while we are living a life full of light, we need to appreciate it.
This darkness and light are not outside, but within you. If you don’t accept your shadow, you will be in a pessimistic, cribbing zone about life, people, and situations. You live in a universe that is made up of millions of galaxies, in which our Milky Way galaxy is just a speck of dust. In addition to this, in the Milky Way there are millions of solar systems, in which our own solar system, which you have studied since childhood, is only one speck of dust in terms of size. And in our solar system, planet Earth is another speck of dust in terms of size. In this human population, you are just a speck of dust. You are a one-of-a-kind person. Every planet knows its value and where it stands. In a similar way, you should know about yourself with no comparison to others and accept yourself with all your flaws first.
Your life should be your responsibility, a critical component in hastening your transformation and feeling liberated in life. When you embrace taking 100% responsibility, it is a powerful belief and simple that you choose to consciously create the reality around you and whatever happens in your life. It is a thought that you need to grow in the garden of your mind. If for some reason you are unable to, then start with a small step. Like right now, whatever is happening in your life, irrespective of the results, you understand your life and you take the responsibility. You must practise every single day to get anywhere in your life, as repetition of thought will bring out different results beyond what you are experiencing right now. I understand that it is easy to write but difficult to process in real life. But here’s the thing: this is a story you’re telling yourself.
As said, start small; you can do this with your eating habits in your breakfast routine. So, whatever you eat today, you are responsible for it as the quality of your life is your responsibility alone. Irrespective of your past experiences, what you have gone through in life, or how you have behaved in life, it is your ability to understand and work around it. Your life will be at mercy if you blame circumstances or wait for things to be fine around you. Then you will act; then this is not a right belief you are carrying. You are not a disabled person; you have the ability to respond to it accordingly. When you embrace ownership and responsibility, it gives you the maximum power to create the life you want.
If you really want to stay optimistic and live a better life, then you need a strong mental spectacle through which you live your life every single day, and that is an “attitude.” Our environment is a mirror of our mental attitude. If you don’t like our environment, we need to change our attitude first. Your attitude is like clay; it doesn’t care what shape you give it, but once shaped, it will become your behaviour towards what is going on around you and within you. It either moulds you into something great or annihilates you. You need to be aware of which attitude in life is pulling you down and which attitude is lifting you up in life. When you have that awareness and overcome the reason why it is happening, your transformation begins. Your attitude is a mix of thoughts in your mind and feelings you feel in your body with those thoughts in mind, and that determines your actions and the response you give, which gives you results in life. The interesting part about being a human is that we are always living on edge, ready to react to things. Start observing yourself. What is your attitude to daily life? When you focus on small things, big things will automatically take care of themselves. You don’t have to do everything in life for a reward. You need to get your life right. That is the biggest reward. Whatever the circumstance is, check your attitude, which comes from a mindset shift, and when that happens, your life will shift majorly.
“There is no one way to live life and stay optimistic; with duality existing, it is all about understanding things and going to the root.”